Friends and my being a tomboy

8 July 2007
movies After church was over, two freaking long hours, but I think it would have been longer if I could have understood them. I took a nap on my couch because the power went out. Dennis came by..yeah. We finished watching The Saint and started watching BI. I really need to get some more movies. We talked about random stuff. The real fun started the next time that he brought his best friend over. We started BI over and talked about a bunch of different stuff. I think that he is getting comfortable with me because he started asking me some more sensitive topic questions. For example HIV and asked if I had a boyfriend( in a round about way).
I surprised both of them with that fact that owning a gun is quite common in the states. We talked about how people here and the states don’t like to get tested because they are afraid of the results. But he was surprised that I had got tested. This brought up the discussion of how people HIV. He started talking about how they get it from sex, but he said “being sexy” I started laughing so hard. I then explained that being sexy can mean “being attractive” as well, not “having sex”. I ended up showing them my flyers that I had brought about HIV and other STDs. They took them, and were impressed that they offered them for free in the states. I was a little reluctant to give them to them because Im not sure how the church will react. But Im preparing myself for that battle. The HM already agreed with me on the importance of education in people lives.

We also talked about tattoos, HIV, him asking me if my boyfriend was going to visit me. I told him that if he wanted to visit the States, that he could say at my place anytime. He was surprised and was like okay I come to America. He got really excited when I told him that a boy from Arusha goes to U of O. So people from Tanzania actually study in the states. I like talking with him because he is close to my age (his 22 to technically he is older than me, but I’m more mature then him in some ways (my universal problem)) and he will discuss I think anything and his eager to learn. And he’s really cute.
Its kind of cute when ever he has a random question it will say “can I ask you a question.“ They asked me this one question, but could not explain what they meant because a bunch of girls showed up. Their question was something about a hen laying a egg in a thorn bush?? They said that is was a indirect question but I didn’t understand what they meant. As soon as the girls showed up they left, I guess they don’t like sharing me.

But I have basically decided that I would be able to start any kind of a relationship with anyone I have close contact with. They are too tied to their religion and think that others are wrong and need to be converted. I kind of wish that I was a real Christen so I could still argue with them about the views and still actually believe. So many of me views, like abortion, sex ed, condom/birth control use, other religions, sex before marriage, cohabitation, so many of my views that are held by real christens as well, I would love to argue but I don’t know how to make them realize that there are different views and degrees on the religion.

Dennis and flashcards. He made me little signs of words in Kiswahili of common items in the house. How nice, and when he came back the next day he quizzed me.

I just saw my first mouse, it freaked me out because I don’t have any shoes on because it rained and they have clumps of mud on them.

I am so sure of the fact that Im a tomboy; of all the “friends“ that I have made to far here. Maybe three/four are girls and seven are guys. I know that I need to work on this, but I feel that my I feel that the guys are more open to talking about more stuff and the girls are more conservative here, it the culture mixing. Well see with time.